I gave birth to my handsome 8.75 lb. baby boy Anthony Everette on August 2nd 2017 at 1:10 PM. Shortly after I gave birth I felt that God put on my heart to write about what he did for me during my labor & delivery so that maybe I could help other expecting mothers. I feel it is necessary to openly express the birthing process and the challenges you could face because bringing your sweet baby into this world is hard and it will be the hardest thing you will ever do. I want to give the truth…the raw truth. So that if I could help one mother during that time, it is worth it all!
My story is not to scare you or to make you fear labor & delivery but to encourage you that even if something comes up you did not plan or did not expect during that time that God is always with you and he can carry you through just like he did for me!
“I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.” Phillipians 4:13
BEGINNING OF LABOR:
My due date was Monday August 1st 2017, and on that day I started the beginning of my 46 hours of labor at 3 in the afternoon. My contractions were not typical by the book contractions. They were coming anywhere from 5 to 10 minutes apart and they did that the whole time up until the last hour of labor (so do not assume your contractions will be exact because they can come random: I believe that is one of many misconceptions of labor)
Labor went on the rest of that day and night but once the contractions started to be painful we decided to head to the hospital around 3 in the morning on Tuesday!
Once we arrived at the hospital and got settled into our room I was checked in by a nurse to get my IV and to see how far I had dilated. We found out I was only 1 centimeter. At that point all these emotions started to roll in like waves…like being scared, nervous, fearful, and disappointment that came in like a flood!
“Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. Not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your hearts be troubled, neither let them be afraid.”
Not to mention I had the most atrocious case of acid reflux that had my chest hurting like a heart attack mixed with a continuous nauseous stomach that had me doubled over running to the bathroom in the midst of contractions. After about 2 hours I finally decided to get some medicine to help with the pain and to help me sleep until the doctor on call in the morning could come see me because my doctor was out of town!
Jump forward a few hours and the doctor was on his way to visit me.
Right before he got to my room a nurse came to see how far along I had progressed, and I was still at 1 centimeter. At that point I knew I had a long ways to go because my heart wanted to give birth vaginally and I knew I would labor as long as it was safe for baby so that I could have that. Unfortunately, the doctor had other plans for me.
When he came into the room he introduced himself and he said he was going to see how much I had progressed. Little did I know that was not what he was really going to do. He decided to perform an incorrect procedure without my knowledge or my consent to speed up my labor. It was beyond painful and traumatic for me especially because I had no idea what he was doing. If he would have been successful I am confident that I would have had a cesarean.
Tears flowed for hours after the incident for I had never had such a painful experience in my life. So for me, that was the moment that changed my whole birthing experience; but it is also the moment that showed me how God has his hand on my life and that he is truly my source of strength and peace like no other. That when the devil had a plan for my life God stepped in. Despite everything, God has shown me how to take that suffering and pain and use it to transform my heart and glorify him.
“You intended to harm me, but God intended it all for good”
Now I want to fast forward after the first incident through the whole day on Tuesday.
I just labored the rest of the day with no epidural until 3 AM on Wedsnday when I could no longer handle the pain anymore. Even though I was only 4 centimeters I do believe my pain was so bad because I had already labored for 36 hours.
Once the anesthesiologist arrived they made my husband leave the room and left me with my night shift nurse. (Which by the way was a blessing and I believe labor and delivery nurses do not get enough credit because in my eyes they are the ones who do all the work! So BE NICE to your nurses lol!!!)
Anyways the anastesialogist moved very quick! He did not take the time to explain anything to me nor did he tell me he was going to give me the epidural while I was in the midst of a contraction. So if you did not know that they may give your epidural during a contraction…prepare yourself for that because i did not know! Thankfully my nurse was phenomenal and she held me as he gave my shot in my back and I was able to brace myself on her and stay steady!
After he gave me the epidural and maybe stayed in my room for 5 minutes he quickly left. Soon after my blood pressure dropped and I began to be sick at my stomach. Thankfully my nurse knew what she was doing and I felt fine a few minutes later after giving me some medicine.
At this point my husband, Mitchell, re entered the room and I burst into tears. I just wept as he held me because I had so much fear come over me. Fear that I couldn’t do it, fear that something was going to go wrong, and fear what if something happens to me or the baby. As mitchell held my limp body he began to pray for me. In that moment God did so much for our marriage even in a time of distress. God showed me what a blessing my husband truly is to me and how I am blessed because of him. Mitchell was a God given strength during my labor and delivery and I know now more than ever God made him perfectly for me.
Once Mitchell finished praying for me we took out a book my mother gave me when we had gotten to the hospital and it was called “Gods promises”. This was also a God given strength to me. Mitchell went through the pages of the book and read multitudes of scriptures to me. As he read them aloud you could feel God’s presence in my hospital room and peace began to pour into my soul. Thank God for his peace that flooded me like a river! (I highly recommend the book for all areas of your life and it is very small so you can slip into you hospital bag to have with you)
“Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the LORD your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.”
After reading “God’s Promises” together it was time for the new on call doctor to come in and see me. When he arrived around 9 AM on Wednesday I was still only at 4 centimeters. We then decided it was time to have my water broken and I was put on an IV drip of petocin! Very soon afterwards the new on call anastesialogist came in to see me as well. He informed me that my epidural needed to be lowered because it was too high. So because of the decision to lower the dose my last 30 minutes of labor were very hard and I am thankful my husband was there to coach me through every pain and contraction.
I am also thankful I had an amazing day nurse who made the call to have my epidural raised back up right before I gave birth. If it was not for her I believe I would have been in even more pain, but most of all I am thankful that God had the right nurses on call the whole time I was in the hospital!
I ended up laboring for 4 more hours then before I knew it I was being whisked away to a delivery room to start pushing. I pushed for a few minutes until the doctor told me I had two options at this point. I could either choose to have an episiotomy or they would have to use a vacuum on Everette’s head to bring him out.
I did not want an episiotomy but I chose that option because in my eyes that was the safest for the baby. (I am not going to lie having an episiotomy is rough and right after birth dealing with it is rough, but if you find yourself having to get one it will be okay. If I made it. I know you will be able to too!) After my episiotomy I only had to push a few minutes when the doctor told me to reach out and pick my baby up and put him on my chest as I birthed my sweet Everette . I did not know I was going to be able to reach down and grab him and that is by far the most amazing feeling I have ever felt!
LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT
I will forever remember that moment seeing my son for the first time and then looking over and seeing my husbands face as he met his son for the first time!
“Do not fear, for I have redeemed you; I have called you by name; you are mine. When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and through the rivers, they shall not overwhelm you; when you walk through fire you shall not be burned, and the flame shall not consume you.”
My favorite part in that scripture is “when you walk through the fire you shall not be burned, and the flame shall not consume you.”
The Lord knows that I walked through the fire but know that his word is true! That if you see yourself walking through the fire that the Lord your God will carry you through just like he did for me!
I had to stand on this scripture “And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God…” Romans8:28
Even the things that hurt us, God will use it to your good. I fully believe though my experience was not good it has made my faith so much stronger in him and made me a stronger person. For I would not be who I am today if it wasn’t for what God brought me through during my labor & delivery.
Giving birth was by far the hardest yet most amazing experience of my life. Words could never convey the actual way I felt through the whole birthing process. I just pray that the words I was able to write would bless your heart in someway and encourage you. It is an honest story. It is not sugar coated. It is just the truth.
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Post to come:
- Tips for Labor & Delivery
- Post Partum WEEK 1
- Things I actually used in my Hospital bag
- Post Partum MONTH 1
You keep him in perfect peace whose mind is stayed on you, because he trusts in you. Isaiah 26:3
Psalm 46:1-3 “God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble. Therefore we will not fear though the earth gives way, though the mountains be moved into the heart of the sea, though its waters roar and foam, though the mountains tremble at its swelling.” (ESV)
Psalm 55:22 “Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.” (ESV)